Mending Fences: A Collaborative, Cognitive-Behavioral Reunification Protocol Serving the Best Interests of the Post-Divorce, Polarized (Paperback)

Mending Fences: A Collaborative, Cognitive-Behavioral Reunification Protocol Serving the Best Interests of the Post-Divorce, Polarized By Benjamin D. Garber, Bill Eddy (Foreword by) Cover Image
By Benjamin D. Garber, Bill Eddy (Foreword by)
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High conflict divorce can leave children polarized within the transitioning family system, aligned with one parent and resisting or refusing contact with the other parent. Rather than becoming mired in the bottomless pit of back and forth blame, more and more courts are seeking remedies in the form of reunification therapy.

Charged with helping the polarized child to enjoy a healthy relationship with both parents, we know what doesn't work: individual child therapy cannot remedy a family systems problem. Dyadic interventions with the child and either parent are seldom sufficient. Even family therapies fall short when they are not grounded in well-established, reliable and valid science.

Mending Fences introduces a child-centered, systemically informed, empirically-validated and experientially-proven collaborative reunification protocol. Focusing on the anxiety inhibiting the system's healthy functioning, well-respected and long-validated cognitive behavioral exposure methods are fused with structural family therapy to reduce the child's anxieties about separating from one parent and approaching the other, the aligned parent's fears of separation and loss, and the rejected parent's fears of rejection.

A common vocabulary across coordinated interventions allows children across the spectrum of ages and abilities to identify and overcome an individually tailored succession of anxiety-inducing events so as to gradually (re-)establish healthy and safe relationships with both parents.

The Mending Fences protocol is practical, proven, and effective. The user-friendly discussion is peppered with up-to-date references to the scientific literature and international case law. Application via video conferencing platforms is discussed.

Included: Case illustrations, sample court orders and service agreements

Table of Contents

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Chapter 1 There Is No Such Thing as Reunification Therapy

Chapter 2 Know When to Hold 'Em: Receiving, Accepting, or Declining the Referral

Chapter 3 The Court Order

Chapter 4 The Service Agreement

Chapter 5 In the Age of Telehealth

Chapter 6 On Villages and Blind Wisemen: MMST as a Team Sport

Chapter 7 Initial Adult Interviews

Chapter 8 Establishing Rapport with the Child

Chapter 9 Conducting Initial Child Interviews; Segueing into Anxiety Management

Chapter 10 Understanding Anxiety

Chapter 11 Anxiety Management, Exposure, and the MMST Protocol

Chapter 12 Working through the Success Deck: Creative, Responsive, and Graduated Exposure

Chapter 13 When MMST Isn't Enough

Appendix A Sample Court Order

Appendix B Sample Service Agreement

Appendix C Sample Timeline of Multi-Modal

Systemic Reunification Therapy




About the Author

Benjamin D. Garber, Ph.D. is a New Hampshire licensed psychologist, parenting coordinator, former guardian ad litem, and expert consultant to family law matters across the United States and Canada. Dr. Garber is a prolific writer and acclaimed speaker. He is the author of eight books concerned with better understanding and serving the needs of children, more than two dozen juried professional publications concerned with high conflict family dynamics, and hundreds of popular press articles. Across roles, Dr. Garber is first and foremost a children's advocate. As a clinician, as a consulting expert, as a writer and as a speaker, Dr. Garber's goal is to help parents, professionals, courts, and organizations to better understand child development and family dynamics so as to put children's needs first. Dr. Garber's child-centered approach is particularly important in his work as a family law consultant. Whether working for counsel or the court, Dr. Garber retains the right to speak out in the best interests of the child. Dr. Garber has lived and worked in New Hampshire since 1987. He is active in the greater Nashua community, has consulted to the state government, and has been instrumental in the development of child-focused agencies and legislation. He is active in national and international family law organizations. He has published his Healthy Parent column for the Nashua Sunday Telegraph twice monthly for more than twenty years. He is a son, a husband, a proud father, and a grandfather. Outside of work, he is an avid kayaker, fisherman, and woodsman.

Product Details
ISBN: 9781950057184
ISBN-10: 1950057186
Publisher: Unhooked Books
Publication Date: November 16th, 2021
Pages: 278
Language: English